The widowed uncle kept pets and was disliked by the aunt, and he said frankly that he could not forget his deceased wife: I want to give them old age and death

With the improvement of people's living standards and the change of life concepts, many people have the hobby of keeping pets. This is not only a way to spend time. When pets accompany them, both parties are more likely to have a feeling of dependence because of their companionship. It seems that pets have become one of the important members of the family, and they are also the spiritual sustenance of a person and even a family.

Although the hobbies and hobbies of keeping pets are not uncommon, not everyone can accept them, especially when a couple of men and women start to get along with each other, they will inevitably have different living habits and hobbies, especially when it comes to raising pets, some people Compromise can be reached through communication, but some people seem to be unable to compromise no matter what, and can only end a relationship by separating. So when the two sides face the disagreement about pet raising, how should they choose? One side is his spiritual sustenance, and the other side is his emotional dependence, which really makes people fall into entanglement and confusion.

The 60-year-old Uncle Fan Rixin (pseudonym) has been widowed for 3 years. Without the company of his wife, he feels lonely living alone, so he has the idea of ​​finding his wife to spend his old age together. Not high, I just want people to be able to live a stable life, but many failures have been stuck on my pets.

Uncle Fan said that his wife died of cancer 3 years ago. When his wife was diagnosed with cancer 19 years ago, the doctor once judged that his wife would not survive for half a year. As a result, under Uncle Fan's careful care, his wife lived another 19 years. A miracle happened. Uncle Fan's contribution is inseparable.

When his wife came home from radiotherapy, Uncle Fan was worried that his wife was bored at home and had low self-esteem, so he prepared some dogs and cats for his wife to accompany her. The toilet will be paralyzed on the ground because of low blood items, and it is difficult for him to keep an eye on his wife's movements when he sleeps deeply.

At this time, the cat meeting kept scratching his wife with his paws until he woke up. The spirituality of pets surprised Uncle Fan and his wife, especially the wife liked pets more. In this way, pets accompanied Uncle Fan and his wife for 19 years. cancer-fighting journey.

What made Uncle Fan unforgettable the most was the scene before his wife's death. A few days before his wife's death, he and his wife didn't feel anything different, but the cat behaved abnormally. Uncle Fan said that the cat was constantly in front of his wife's bed. The action of burying with his claws seemed to bury his wife. The wife joked to the cat for this reason: "I'm not dead yet, so are you going to bury me?"

Just two days after the wife's joke started, she suddenly felt that something was wrong. She seemed to realize that her deadline was approaching. When she was dying, the wife expressed her gratitude to her husband, Uncle Fan, for taking care of her for 19 years. After the wife left, Uncle Fan The cats and dogs they raised became ill and died one after another. Until now, one cat and one dog accompany Uncle Fan till now.

Uncle Fan bluntly said that the only cat and dog left carry the memories of himself and his deceased wife, and he has raised them for more than ten years. He is very affectionate, and he is reluctant to abandon them. Therefore, for his future wife, Uncle Fan said that he must Accept these two pets of your own, or you won't talk about it.

The 56-year-old aunt Wang Yanhui (pseudonym) is more in line with Uncle Fan's mate selection requirements. She divorced because her ex-husband disregarded family and male chauvinism, which led to the discord between the two. She said that her husband was a shopkeeper, and she was a woman pulling two children alone. Growing up is not easy, so Aunt Wang especially hopes to find a man who knows both cold and hot to live with. She wants to let go of her strength and become a gentle woman.

The two met and introduced each other's situation. Aunt Wang praised Uncle Fan's infatuation, and bluntly said that in this social era, Uncle Fan can take care of his sick wife for 19 years, and he still insists on working, raising his daughter alone, and taking over the family. All the housework, Uncle Fan has been very difficult in the past 19 years, and he is an example of a good man.

Hearing Aunt Wang complimenting him like this, Uncle Fan said that he has no machismo. He can do anything a woman can do. He has been managing the housework for the past 19 years. He hopes to have a better understanding with Aunt Wang. Later, I went to a restaurant for dinner. During the conversation while eating, Aunt Wang nodded frequently to express her approval to Uncle Fan. It was not difficult to see from Aunt Wang's full smile that she was very satisfied with Uncle Fan.

After the meal, Aunt Wang took the initiative to express to the introducer that she was very satisfied with Uncle Fan, but when she learned that Uncle Fan had a pet with a cat and a dog, she couldn't accept it in her heart, and she had to go back and be careful. After thinking about it, Uncle Fan expressed respect for Aunt Wang's opinion, but if you want to let yourself abandon cats and dogs, this is absolutely impossible. Dogs, not to mention they also carry the memories of himself and his deceased wife. I have to give this cat and a dog to the end of their lives. The two finally left each other's contact information and went home respectively. What was left to Uncle Fan was still an uncertain blind date. .

Judging from Uncle Fan's experience, he is obviously an example of a good man. He has accompanied his wife to fight cancer for 19 years. He has supported a family by himself. The hardships involved are beyond imagination. , the cats and dogs raised by him and his wife have also become one of the indispensable family members in their lives and have become his spiritual support.

Now, with the death of his wife, the only remaining cats and dogs have become Uncle Fan's spiritual sustenance. It is not so much that he is doing his due diligence towards pets, it is better to say that he is maintaining the friendship between himself and his deceased wife. In Uncle Fan's heart, As long as the cats and dogs are still there, seeing them is like seeing the past scenes of myself and my deceased wife. The cats and dogs have become the objects of Uncle Fan's condolences. Asking Uncle Fan to give up the pair of cats and dogs is tantamount to asking Uncle Fan. Abandoning the memories of himself and his deceased wife and severing the friendship between himself and his deceased wife are obviously unacceptable to Uncle Fan, who values ​​love and righteousness.

Because Aunt Wang did not have the special emotional experience of Uncle Fan, it was really difficult for her to understand Uncle Fan's obsession with cats and dogs. To be fair, some people are naturally indifferent to pets, and others have the freedom to keep pets, so she also refuses to accept it. Right, this matter on Aunt Wang's side is purely a matter of personal life preferences, while on Uncle Fan's side it is not just about personal life preferences, but also involves their own emotional sustenance. The two seem to be involved in this matter. Compromise and unity cannot be reached.

But having said that, Uncle Fan should know in his heart that no one is obliged to accept his emotional experience. Although it is undeniable that Uncle Fan is a good man. His devotion to his deceased wife in the past 19 years is touching and admirable, but love is selfish after all. Before dealing with your own emotional problems, it is not only very hasty to spend the rest of your life with your wife just because you are lonely in your heart, but also hurts innocent women.

Even to a certain extent, Uncle Fan's approach is not lacking in a certain degree of selfishness. He cannot forget his deceased wife emotionally. In real life, he needs other women to fill the void in his heart. This contradictory state makes people infatuated with him. There is a certain suspicion again. Since I am determined to return to life to find a new wife, I should let go of my old feelings. Otherwise, I will go on the road to find new feelings with the fetters of my feelings. It will neither comfort the dead wife's spirit in heaven nor cause feelings for innocent women. Troubled and hurt, it seems difficult.

Humans are emotional animals, but human beings are also rational high-level animals. After a relationship fades away, it is understandable to find new ones to fill up one’s emotional sustenance. Emotional problems cannot bring the emotional troubles of history into new ones.

Since Uncle Fan has experienced several failures, many of which are based on the other party's inability to accept pets, it can be seen that this is not an isolated case, and the issue of pet ownership cannot be properly handled. The two sides are satisfied. Since they can't let go of their pets and their grief for their deceased wife, it may be more appropriate to fulfill their commitments and accompany the only remaining cat and dog on their deathbed.

Relationships are not afraid of being late, but there are congenital deficiencies in rush. Feelings naturally arise and accompany each other until old age.

What do you think of Uncle Fan's remarks that "I would rather not find a wife but also give cats and dogs the care of their lives"? Is this mentality still necessary to continue dating and looking for a wife? Welcome to leave a message for discussion, thank you!

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