When lovers get along, boys 'pretend to love you', and there are several manifestations

Love can be faked.

Maybe the person you love deeply doesn't love you, but has been pretending to love you all the time.

Saw a post online:

The boy posted: "After 10 years of marriage, I actually never loved my wife even though we have 2 children."

The boy concealed his wife, saved a deposit of 2 million, and then bought a house in a remote place.

The wife doesn't know, the parents don't know, and the two kids don't know.

He said that he went to work every day, but in fact he was just pretending to go to work. The company was his name in a friend's company. When he went to work, he actually went to rest at the house he bought.

Day after day, year after year.

He didn't betray the marriage, he just didn't have the slightest love for the current relationship.

In the eyes of outsiders, he and his wife are a model couple, and they have hardly had any quarrels in the 10 years of marriage.

He is a model husband, good-natured, stable, and kind to children.

In fact, only he himself knows that he doesn't like his family, he doesn't like his wife, and he just wants to spend the rest of his life alone.

After reading this post, I was completely shocked.

It turns out that there will be people who pretend to love you, but they will go on with you even though they obviously don't love you.

What are the signs of a boy who pretends to love you?

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Good at faking outside, returning to the real state at home

for example:

He is very enthusiastic and affectionate towards you outside, and always creates a look of "Look, I love my wife and family very much."

But when he got home, his attitude changed.

Perfunctory, indifferent, indifferent to you.

He treats you very well outside, just to create his own personality;

His attitude towards you changed when he got home, this is his true state.

The "contrast" is obvious, and always makes you feel his unreal and real side.

In this emotional state for a long time, girls will have self-doubt:

"What kind of person am I with? What kind of person is he?"

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We can only share happiness, but we cannot share suffering

The person who pretends to love you does not have the emotional basis to "see the truth in adversity" with you.

You will find that if a boy pretends to love you, then his dedication and investment in you will be reserved.

When you are in trouble, he will hesitate to consider whether to help you.

Moreover, the premise for him to help you is based on the fact that you will not cause him any loss.

This brings me to a consulting case.

The girl married her husband for a few years, ran a small company and went bankrupt, and owed more than 100,000 yuan to the employees for wages that could not be paid.

She proposed to her husband that she wanted him to help out first, and then he would pay back.

As a result, her husband resolutely refused and threatened with divorce.

In fact, in the first two years of their marriage, part of the money earned by the girl's company has already been spent by the man buying a car.

The hundreds of thousands of cars are all earned by girls.

What does this mean?

People who don't love you can only share joys and sorrows with you, but they cannot share sorrows with you.

If you win, he will enjoy the joy of success with you;

If he loses, he will disown you immediately.

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He is willing to bow his head, but never compromise

The boy who pretends to love you will also be very obvious when he has conflicts with you.

He will bow his head, and the way he chooses to bow his head is: silence, not talking, whatever you say.

He gives you the initiative, whether you are willing to get angry, smash things, explode emotionally, or even slam the door and leave.

He didn't do anything, just put on a look: "I was wrong".

No explanation, unwilling to communicate.

It seems that he is solving the problem, but in fact his attitude shows the problem: he is not willing to compromise with you.

Even though he knows he's wrong, he just won't communicate the problem with you.

Too lazy to communicate, too lazy to communicate with you, too lazy to waste time on you.

In intimate relationships, empathy and communication are very important principles for managing relationships.

Without the ability to empathize, only indifference remains.

You don't understand his emotions, and he doesn't want to walk into your spiritual world.

Without communication, the relationship will only get worse.

Every time they quarreled, the other party treated them coldly.

Even if you love such a person again, you will lose your last patience under every conflict and loss.

If you have enough disappointment, you will not have any expectations for love.

When a boy is with you, whether he loves you or pretends to love you, you can actually feel it.

There is a saying that goes like this:

"When a girl is with her boyfriend and feels embarrassed even asking him to help with something, there must be something wrong with her relationship."

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