In an intimate relationship, ways to enhance the 'husband and wife relationship': praise and communication

Writers have different opinions about marriage.

Mr. Qian Zhongshu said:

"Marriage is a city under siege. People in the city want to come out, and people outside the city want to go in."

Samuel said:

"The success of a marriage depends on two people, and one can make it fail."

Leonidova said:

"The foundation of marriage is love, attachment, and respect."

Bai Yang said:

"For the continuation of love and the happiness of marriage, the wife must please the husband, and the husband must also please the wife. As for how to please, that is a high-level art."

Someone insisted:

Love and marriage are two different things, because after entering marriage, the love between husband and wife will gradually disappear.

It was also insisted that:

A marriage without love is doomed to failure; even if the relationship with the other party is going downhill, you will work hard to maintain love and find love again.

In intimate relationships, those who can manage the "husband and wife relationship" well are not easy.

"Family and everything prosper", if you want to have a better career and life, first of all your family relationship must be stable, harmonious and happy.

So, what can husbands and wives do to enhance the relationship between two people in the process of getting along?

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Establish "good communication"

This is very important, for couples who lack communication, the relationship will only get worse.

On the contrary, those couples who can still guarantee to communicate with each other every day after marriage often have a good relationship.

What is good communication?

First: sincerity, expression, understanding.

Couples need to be honest with each other.

Since they are husband and wife, they are a family. If they can't even do the most basic sincerity, then what kind of family are they talking about?

You keep many secrets and emotions from the other party, and the other party also keeps many things from you.

It's obviously a family, but they are always on guard against each other. Is such a marriage meaningful?

In addition, you must learn to express yourself.

Express your emotions, express your happiness or dissatisfaction.

"You're awesome, what you just did made me meet a new you."

"What you just said has troubled me and hurt my self-esteem. I hope you will stop saying similar things in the future."

If you don't express it, all your emotions are hidden in your heart. How can the other party guess your thoughts?

Say what you want to say, and husband and wife need to speak directly.

Second: Find topics and make commitments.

Husband and wife are going to go on for a lifetime.

In this world, you will find that apart from the relationship between husband and wife, other people are unreliable.

Children will leave your side to develop on a bigger stage;

Parents will leave before you, and then only you and your significant other will be left.

When you are old, your children will have their own families and children, so who else can be with you for a lifetime except husband and wife?

To manage a good relationship between husband and wife is also to prepare for your own old age.

Communication requires two people to find some interesting topics.

for example:

Share some trivial matters every day, share things encountered in work and life, gossip and so on.

Even talking nonsense is better than not saying a word.

Many times, bullshit is often a way to prop up a marriage.

Of course, learn to give each other some promises.

Commitment is related to the future and is your common small goal.

Only with commitment and goals can your hearts be more aligned.

Third: Refuse to blame, and don't stop praising.

Never underestimate the "power of praise".

Compliments are important in any relationship.

for example:

When you get along with your lover, every time he will accuse you, belittle you, sarcasm you, and hit your self-confidence.

No matter what you do well or not, he will take advantage of your shortcomings and criticize you, as if you have no advantages in his eyes.

another situation:

Your lover will not be stingy in praising you, he will immediately praise you for what you do well, and give you rainbow farts.

Even if you don't do well and screw up something, he will encourage you and comfort you.

Which of the two situations do you like more?

According to psychology, the most real desire deep in people's hearts is to be praised.

If you want the relationship between husband and wife to get better and better, you must learn to praise.

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Be more involved in each other's lives

First, devote more time and energy to your family.

After many people get married, one party takes care of the children while the other works.

Those who take care of children full-time think:

"I gave up my job, my circle of friends, and took care of my children at home every day. You don't understand my hard work."

Workers think:

"I work outside every day, and it's very hard to make money and support my family. Are you the only one who works hard?"

As a result, the two went further and further in their respective trajectories.

In fact, it seems reasonable, but it is not reasonable at all.

Whether they are full-time wives or full-time husbands, they are all under great mental and psychological pressure.

They need their partner to be more involved in the family.

Similarly, only when the husband and wife participate in the family together can the relationship warm up and the marriage be more stable.

Second, develop common interests and hobbies.

The purpose of doing this is to participate in the other person's life.

If your relationship status is:

Busy in their respective fields, unwilling to let the other party understand you, not to share your work and hobbies with the other party, and not to allow the other party to participate in your life.

Such a marriage is lonely and boring.

Only by participating together and mobilizing each other's passion, it is best to take the children together to cultivate some hobbies together.

For example: painting together, running together, climbing mountains together, fishing together and so on.

These interests and hobbies can not only heat up the relationship, but also cultivate a tacit understanding between you.

Today's topic:

How do you maintain a relationship with your partner?

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