After the age of 60, the 'emotional needs' of the elderly face 3 dilemmas

See a set of data on the Internet:

By the end of 2021, the number of elderly people over the age of 60 in the country has reached 267 million, and it is estimated that around 2025, the elderly population will exceed 300 million.

What is this concept?

In less than 5 people, there is 1 old man over 60 years old.

This data is quite astonishing.

Among the more than 200 million elderly people who are approaching 300 million, there are also:

"Empty nest elderly, elderly living alone, disabled elderly, etc."

Empty nesters are:

Children are absent or have no children.

Elderly living alone means:

For a long period of time, I lived alone without my wife or children.

A disabled elderly person is:

Lost part of the mobility, it may be difficult to live alone.

There is another set of data on the Internet:

Among the elderly population, nearly one-third are "widowed or single".

Among these people, more than 80% have the desire to remarry, but less than 10% of them have put it into action.

The emotional needs of the elderly have always been ignored by the public.

In front of people, it seems that there is only one way of "nursing home".

As everyone knows, the elderly also want to have their own old age life, and are also eager to start a new relationship.

But what are the difficulties facing the elderly?

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Not enough social channels

This is important and has a big impact on how older adults address their emotional needs.

Generally speaking, only in big cities, where the standard of living is better and people are more open-minded, can there be some social channels exclusively for the elderly.

for example:

Blind date corner, dance party, blind date bureau for the elderly, exclusive tour group for the elderly, etc.

On these channels, those single elderly people have more opportunities to meet the opposite sex.

But in most small cities, towns and rural areas, the elderly living alone do not have such social channels at all.

Even if there is, they will trap themselves at home out of face.

My hometown is in the village.

After returning to my hometown to live for a period of time, I can directly feel that the number of elderly people has increased significantly.

Young people have all gone out, either going out to work, or buying houses and settling outside.

The old people who stayed either lived in the garage, on the first floor, or in the housing for the elderly.

In their spare time, several people sat downstairs and chatted, sitting at the intersection and chatting.

And, "gender awareness" is evident.

Men and men get together to chat and play cards, and women and women get together to chat about trivial things.

Without enough social channels, they have no way to meet more people.

What's more, the range of activities of most elderly people is only a few kilometers within a radius of their residence.

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Children's Views and Intervention

In fact, most children's arrangements for their parents after they are old are:

If conditions permit, choose to let parents live in a nursing home;

If there are no conditions, I will discuss with my brothers and sisters to buy an apartment for the elderly for my parents;

If there is only one parent left, several people will discuss with each other and live in each family for a month.

Children rarely say:

"Greetings for single parents to find a partner, consent for parents to start a new relationship."

This is not allowed and unacceptable to the concepts they have been exposed to since childhood.

The thinking of most people is actually "feudal".

Some children think:

"Parents are so old, what emotional needs do they have? Help take care of the children at home, go out for a walk if you have nothing to do, why marry? People are sure to laugh at a lot of age."

There are so many obstacles for children, and the elderly have no courage to choose their own feelings.

If even your own children don't understand you, don't support you, and don't understand your emotions, then do the elderly dare to tell their children about their emotional needs?

They are alone, lonely.

Isn't it their right to pursue their own feelings and pursue a new life in the second half of their lives?

When parents bring up their children, do they lose the right to choose and make decisions about their own lives?

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Doubts and voices from the outside world

Words are scary.

When a person talks about you, you don't care;

Two people are pointing at you behind your back, maybe you don't care.

But if there are more than 3 people, everyone will talk about you behind your back, and it is easy for you to deny yourself at that time.

Your choice begins to waver;

Your self-confidence starts to drop.

This is especially true for older people.

They have lived their whole lives, what do they care most about? care about saving face.

It is unbearable for them to be "poked in the back" all the time.

Unless, they live in a new environment and don't care about those people's eyes.

The emotional plight of the elderly is right in front of us.

The distribution of property, the hindrance of children, the colored glasses of the people around.

But those who oppose it have not considered: When they themselves become old people, how should they deal with themselves?

In the movie "Untouchable", there is such a line:

"Hope keeps people alive."

People always have a little hope and a little persistence, so as not to let themselves fall down.

Today's topic:

What do you think are the difficulties facing the emotional needs of the elderly?

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