People who always like to take advantage when eating, 'do not have close friendships'
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The dinner table sees a person's character.
A person's character, character, can be clearly seen through his eating, speaking, and doing things.
This reminds me of a dinner I attended before.
During the meal, there is a person who likes to show off, and uses his own chopsticks to pick up food for everyone; when drinking, he is the best at persuading everyone to drink, but when he drinks, he excuses that he can't drink.
After that dinner, everyone's disgust towards this person was already on their faces.
Many times, some small details and habits in the dinner can tell whether this person is worthy of your deep friendship.
When eating, are there any people who are not worthy of your deep friendship?
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When eating, only care about your own feelings
Saw a story like this on the Internet.
The father was invited by his son to a dinner.
At the dinner, it was the son's other two business partners. The son also hoped that his father could give him some advice and help him see whether these two partners are trustworthy.
After the dinner was over, my father said, "I think one of these two partners looks more stable, and the other is unreliable."
He said: "Looking at the stable boy, he is very particular about eating, talking and table manners. It can be seen that his tutor and family conditions are good. He should be a person who has been educated since he was a child."
"And the other unreliable boy seems to be more selfish. When eating, the chopsticks keep tossing and turning in the dishes, only picking what he likes to eat; every time the dish comes, he is the first to pick up the food with the chopsticks, without any consideration. other people's feelings."
Two people, two eating habits, but they revealed their different personalities.
Sure enough, in the next cooperation, the boy was cheated out of a sum of money by that selfish partner, and that prudent and reliable person stayed with him during his most difficult time.
At the dinner, you can often see this kind of people:
When ordering food, they only order what they like;
No matter who they sit with to eat, they have to use chopsticks to pick up vegetables over and over again;
I don't care about other people's feelings and visions, just eat on my own.
Such a person is selfish and selfish, and only cares about his own interests.
They can only obtain benefits and value from others, and it is difficult for them to pay some.
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When eating, do not pay attention to the image
Is there anyone around you who is used to "babbling" when eating?
There is a set of polls online:
"In terms of table manners, which behaviors do you hate most?"
Among the top ones are:
He babbles loudly while eating; always uses his own chopsticks to pick up food for others; he only cares about himself and does not consider other people's tastes; he eats very fast and doesn't care whether others have finished eating.
These few habits basically cover the most annoying things on the dinner table.
Bajizui, what does it mean?
It shows that this person doesn't pay attention to his own image, and doesn't care about his personality, packaging, appearance, or what others think of him.
Maybe someone will say:
"This is the true temperament, no need to pretend, no need to cover up yourself."
However, even in the family, the behavior of babbling can bring trouble to the family.
First of all, babbling will lead children to imitate.
If the adults smack their mouths while eating, the children will definitely learn from the adults. Do you want to watch your children develop the habit of smacking their mouths?
Secondly, babbling will affect others.
for example:
You are very hungry, looking at the food in front of you, you have an appetite, and you want to eat a big meal; as a result, there is a person on the dining table who smacks his mouth loudly.
Maybe at that moment, you don't even have the appetite to eat.
Finally, barking is not conducive to socializing and working.
If you go to have dinner with a business partner or client, and the other party sees you and babbles, their impression of you will be greatly reduced.
In social situations, bajizui also gives people a feeling of "you are very hungry, you devour your food, and you have no image".
So, no matter what, we have to pay attention to our demeanor and image.
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When eating, the habit takes advantage
The advantage mentioned here has two meanings.
First: He is the first to arrive when others treat guests, and he is the first to hide when it is his turn to treat guests.
He only enjoys what others have paid, but he is unwilling to give back to others;
He only likes to take advantage, eating and drinking everywhere, but he is unwilling to provide the same for others.
Such a person, no matter how good the relationship is, will make you feel disgusted after a long time.
This is enough to show that he is a selfish person who doesn't care about the relationship between you at all, but only cares about interests.
Second: When eating, always waste.
Like eating a "buffet".
Some people eat buffets, and their subconscious habit is: they must take more, anyway, all the money has been paid, and they cannot lose money.
So, they ate what was in the bowl and looked at what was in the pot.
As a result, there is a lot of food left over in the end, all wasted.
This is also a kind of advantage.
I thought I was taking advantage, but developed a bad habit of wasting food.
Take as much as you eat, and cook as much as you eat, this is the most basic principle that everyone should remember.
Chinese people are very particular about food.
The ritual sense of eating, the complexity of food, and table manners are all enough to explain our obsession with eating.
Table manners, seemingly simple, are actually the expression of a person's character.
Today's topic:
What behaviors do you hate most at the dinner table?
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