'Like, fit, be together' are three completely different things

When you reach a certain age, you will find that liking someone, being with someone, and whether your life after being together is suitable are actually several completely different things.

At the same time, satisfying the person who likes, is suitable, and goes to the end smoothly requires great fate, but behind this is a very small probability.

Some people spend their entire lives looking for the soul mate they want.

Loving someone, thinking about someone, but being with someone else.

These are the three helplessness in love.

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The person you like may not be suitable for you

This reminds me of the classic domestic love drama "Passionate" co-operated by Zhao Baogang and Wang Shuo.

A classic, pinnacle, unsurpassed drama of love and marriage.

In the play, Fang Yan and Du Mei are two such people.

They met at the funeral of their dialect friend's wife.

Meet in other people's tragedies, and then start your own tragedies.

Dialect is a literary youth, with the lofty and machismo of a literati in his bones.

As for Du Mei, she is romantic, innocent, longs for perfect and pure love, and has a very high possessive desire for love.

Both of them pursue love very much and long for love.

But their personalities really don't fit.

At the beginning of the relationship, Dialect was willing to give in and said some nice words to coax Du Mei.

Faced with Du Mei's suspicion and suspicion, Dialect can also say some sweet words to make Du Mei feel at ease.

But after being together for a long time, Fang Yan also lost patience in the face of Du Mei's endless doubts and suspicions.

In order to prove whether Fang Yan loves her or not, what did Du Mei do before their marriage broke down?

She tied Fangyan to the bed, put a knife on Fangyan's neck, and asked him, "Do you love me or not?"

Feeling here, only suffocation and fear.

In the face of life and marriage, love is still full of idealism after all.

When dialect breaks the glass with his head and calls for help, it means that the relationship between the two has come to an end.

Two people who love each other may not be suitable.

In the ultimate love, in the end, there are only twists and turns and nothing left.

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The right person may not be able to be together

We often say: "Whether the shoes fit or not, you can only know if you wear them on your feet."

That's what feelings are.

Others say that you are very compatible and suitable, and that is measured from the perspective of others.

Whether the other party is suitable for you, whether you can form a good love or marriage relationship with you, requires the two of you to feel and adapt.

Another tragedy of feelings?

You were heartbroken in your last relationship.

You love vigorously, you have given everything for love, and it is difficult to fall in love with others.

But in order to get married, you accepted blind dates again and again.

In the end, you have found a blind date who is more suitable for you.

Whether it is work, income, education or family conditions, you can all be regarded as "well-matched".

You can talk about a lot of similar topics, and it's good to be with each other.

But in your subconscious mind, you always feel that something is missing.

You don't know what is missing.

You just feel that with the other person, you don't have a strong desire to get married.

Finally, in indecision, you took the initiative to end such a relationship.

Even if the other party is very suitable, you don't want to be easily trapped in the cage of marriage.

You want to get out and about, see, and maybe meet a soul mate.

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You may not like the person who is with you

This brings me to a consulting case.

A man messaged me saying:

He has been married to his wife for 10 years and has a child, but he doesn't love his wife at all.

He pretends to be loving and happy every day, but in his heart he is aggrieved and sad.

Because before getting married, he had a relationship that lasted 6 years.

All his love has disappeared with the departure of his ex.

He said that the feelings for his wife are more of responsibility, friends and relatives, but there is no love.

When he goes to work every day, he is the most relaxed moment, and when he returns home, he has to wear a mask.

Pretend to be a good husband and father, and create a state of "we are very loving and happy" to the outside world.

The highest level of deception is to deceive oneself, and in the end you have deceived yourself.

What is the tragedy of emotion?

The person you love doesn't love you, but you don't like the person who loves you;

You are finally with the person you like, but you find that you are not suitable at all, and eventually run out of love, waste time, and become the most familiar stranger;

Going around in circles, you still make do with someone else and get married; you don't like him, and you don't suit him very well, you just follow the direction of the current and rush into marriage.

Then, what awaits you is dullness, pain and silence.

Why do many couples become more and more silent in the end?

To put it bluntly, there are complaints, regrets and unwillingness in each other's hearts.

Today's topic:

Do you regret being with each other?

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