Do you regret marrying your wife? Netizens share heart-wrenching experiences, breaking people's defenses

There is a highly praised topic on Zhihu: Do you regret marrying your current wife?

Under this question, more than 10,000 netizens participated in the answer, and the number of views exceeded 300 million.

Seeing men share their marriage stories and the marriage they are going through made me think more.

One of the experiences of an anonymous netizen broke people's defenses.

He has known his wife for 10 years and been married for 5 years. He thought his life would get better and better, and his life became more and more hopeful, but he didn't expect his wife to betray their marriage.

For several months, netizens slept with their children, while their wives rested alone in another room.

In this way, she chats with other men every day.

When the netizen noticed this, realized that his wife might have done something sorry for him, and asked to look at the chat records, he was explicitly rejected by his wife.

After more than 4 hours of stalemate, the wife still refused to compromise and snatched the mobile phone from the netizen.

In front of him, he deleted the chat history with that man.

Afterwards, netizens also shared how they lived through their years of marriage.

After getting married, he almost gave up socializing;

He rarely spends money on himself, only a few pieces of clothes throughout the year;

I am willing to spend money on grocery shopping, but I still have to grab various coupons;

Even if it is a married life, he is considerate of his wife and chooses to bear it by himself.

The mortgage is almost paid off, the child is about to go to school, and he fantasizes that life will get better and better, but his wife makes him a "so ironic" joke.

Betrayal is always the most hurtful way to end a marriage.

Even if your personalities don't match, you quarrel every day, because of family reasons, or because of reality, it's better than being separated because of betrayal.

This brings me to another story.

Men also shared stories about themselves and their wives.

He and his wife have been together for 8 years. When they first got together, he was very poor. He relied on his wife for food, accommodation, and commuting to work.

Even when the two got married, they still lived in a rented house.

In order to marry him, his wife insisted on marrying him regardless of the objections of her parents and everyone around her.

And men are also very competitive and emotional.

After several years of hard work after marriage, I bought a house and a car, all in my wife's name.

He says:

"If it weren't for my wife, I wouldn't be where I am now; although she is not perfect, it is because of her imperfection that she is cute."

One is a negative template for marriage and the other is a positive goal for marriage.

There are always some people who "turn pale when they talk about marriage".

They think that marriage is a cage that will bind you all your life;

Think marriage is a man-eating beast that will drain everything from you;

Thinking that marriage is a bottomless pit, you will sink deeper and deeper, and it will be difficult to get out.

In fact, how can marriage be so terrible?

Back to the story of the first netizen:

His marriage failed because of his wife's betrayal.

There are two choices before him.

First: forgive, and then there is always a thorn in my heart.

Even if he forgives, comforts himself, and convinces himself, it is for the sake of the child; but one day in the near future, a bigger conflict will still erupt between the two.

Because betrayal cannot be stopped.

Betrayal is like domestic violence, there will be more times after the first time.

Second: If you end the marriage decisively, there will be short-term pain.

If you wrong your child, you will also experience long pain, but it is all worth it.

As he himself said, seeing life is getting better and better.

In fact, everything will pass.

The reason why the other party betrays you is not that you are not good enough, but that he is ready to leave you.

His sense of morality and character are not worth your effort on him.

Of course, marriage is not all "tragedies."

I prefer to believe that marriage is beautiful, and it is the combination of two people's beliefs, goals, and feelings.

I have seen this sentence:

"Husband and wife have been together for a long time, and every day there are countless thoughts of wanting to strangle each other; but after the quarrel, they still love each other very much."

If a person can't even manage a marriage, it will be difficult for him to persist even if he enters into another marriage relationship.

Marriages that are combined for profit will also break up for profit;

For the marriage of love, I am not willing to give up easily.

The bargaining chip of marriage, the relationship and loyalty of two people, will determine the direction of marriage.

Man is a complex contradiction.

single for a long time, regret;

After being married for a long time, I also regret it;

With the one you love, you still regret it;

With someone you don't love, you still regret it.

You see, it's so complicated; no matter what choice is made, there seems to be regret.

Therefore, cherishing the present is our best choice.

Today's topic:

Do you regret marrying the other person?

Why?

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