Psychology: The essence of 'barrel spirits' stems from their inner inferiority complex and narcissism

"Leverage" is everywhere.

Give the masters a breakthrough, they can move the whole earth.

The encyclopedia's explanation of bar essence is:

"Special human beings who are looking for trouble for nothing, are addicted to bullying, take bullying as their own responsibility, professionally criticize, find fault with eggs, seek trouble for trouble, and quarrel for the sake of quarrel."

You can see bullshits everywhere.

It's just that there are the most and most prominent bullies on the Internet, and they are also called "Internet trolls".

Everything can be smashed, and everything can be sprayed.

You can't reason with the bullies because they don't speak logic;

You can't play emotional cards with gangsters, because they don't like oil and salt.

It's very difficult to defend against the barbarians because they can see through every hole.

There is a group on Douban called "Holding Up the Whole Earth".

In this group, everyone is unwilling to speak in a normal tone, but habitually retorts.

No matter what you say, the bar is done.

-01

What are the performances of the lever essence?

First: Habitual lifting of the bar

You say: "Good morning, everyone".

Someone will slap you: "Are you restless at night?"

This is a kind of habitual thinking. After they hear you speak, what they subconsciously think of is how to refute you instead of agreeing with you.

You say: "Work has been terrible this month."

He slaps you: "Did you feel better last month?"

Second: get used to pouring cold water

You said: It is so difficult to write a thesis.

He slapped you: "Only I think it's not the paper's problem, but your problem?"

You said: "I finally passed CET-4."

He slapped you: "Am I the only one who thinks CET-4 is easy?"

You said: "I finally have my first car in my life."

He slaps you: "Is it easy to buy a car?"

Another characteristic of Gang Jing is that he is used to pouring cold water on him.

No matter what you say, they don't care; what they care about is how to beat you from a certain angle.

Third: Misattribution

You say: The company is going bankrupt.

He slaps you: "Don't you find the reason from yourself?"

You say, "It's comfortable to wear today."

He slaps you: "If you dress like this, who are you going to hook up with?"

The world of barbarians is very exciting, you can't use normal thinking and logic to line up with them, because you can easily be led into another dead end by them.

Fourth: Change the concept secretly and increase the height

You say, "I have two cats and I am very happy."

He slapped you: "Do you care so much about your parents?"

You said: "I helped a stranger today and did a good deed. I feel very fulfilled."

He slapped you: "It's so nice to outsiders, but I haven't seen you have a lot of family members."

The logic of the gangster is to get used to standing on the perspective of God, pointing at other people's behavior and life from above, trying to stand on the moral high ground, criticizing you and belittling you.

Change the concept secretly and increase the height.

-02

What is the essence of a lever?

In other words: Why do bar spirits exist?

When we are talking about the masters, we have to dig deep into their inner thoughts and thinking patterns.

Only by understanding the gangster and analyzing the psychology of the gangster can we be invincible in the face of the gangster.

First: The essence of being a bully is inferiority complex

Is there anyone around you who is not as good as you, and still likes to fight against you?

This kind of person is also a kind of leverage.

You're doing well, they're sarcastic;

You bought a new car and they said "this car is still showing off";

You changed to a new mobile phone, and they said, "People are stupid and have a lot of money, so I bought this mobile phone for so much money."

The sour words could not conceal the jealousy in their hearts.

In fact, the reason why a considerable number of bullies like to fight is because they have low self-esteem in their hearts.

By refuting others and raising the bar, gain the outside world's sense of recognition and attention to yourself.

Second: Arrogance is also a kind of "narcissistic psychology"

For bullies, their bragging is sometimes an expression of narcissism.

When they are used to contradicting and antagonizing those around them, it is also their way of "trying to dominate" others.

They constantly emphasize that they are right and others are wrong;

Constantly contradicting others and asking others to do what he thinks.

Third: It is "solidified thinking", a manifestation of paranoia

Gangsters are generally paranoid, you can observe those gangsters around you.

They insist on their views and ideas too much, and their thinking has formed a "cured mode".

Unwilling to learn lessons, unwilling to listen to other people's opinions and suggestions, but stick to their own ideas and accept death.

"I don't want you to feel, I want me to feel"

"I don't care what you think or do, I'm right anyway"

Don't hit the south wall and don't look back, this is the true thinking of the gangsters.

Perhaps, even if they hit a wall, they are unwilling to change their views.

-03

What should I do if I encounter a bully?

There are 3 ways to respond.

The first type: Conservative type.

No matter what the gangsters say or do, you ignore them and treat them as air.

Those who bring you negative emotions, you can use the method of cold treatment.

Second: Radical.

If he argues with you, then you should fight with reason; if you have reason and evidence, you are right, so take a class with the barbarians.

Third: calm type.

"Let's let the east, west, north, south wind, I will stand still", you must have such determination.

No matter what Gangjing says, you respond with one sentence: "What does it have to do with you? What does it have to do with me?"

Guaranteed a hundred bars.

Today's topic:

What do you do when you encounter a bully?

(The source network of the article with pictures)