No matter who you get along with, remember the 'three don'ts': don't gossip, don't tell lies, don't talk big
"Talk too much and you will lose".
People who talk too much and like to express themselves too much are more prone to mistakes.
When a person talks too much, his inertial thinking will make him subconsciously ignore what he just said wrong.
But the speaker has no intention and the listener has the heart, he feels nothing, and the bystanders will amplify what he said.
Talking is an art, and whether it's social relationships or getting along with a loved one, people who can talk always make people feel comfortable.
However, there are also some things you must never say, no matter how good your relationship is.
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Be a man, don't tell "lies"
People who have lost their integrity will only make others feel disgusted;
People with integrity will make others more willing to help you and have more interaction with you.
"Integrity" is a person's "business card".
Familiar people will get closer to you because of your integrity;
People who are not familiar with you, after getting along with you for a period of time, realize that you are a person of integrity, and then they will have more intersections and contacts with you.
In social life, never lie.
When you tell a lie, you need to make up for it with more lies; the final result is often that the description becomes darker and darker, the more lies you tell, and you can't even find who you are.
The simplest example is: borrowing money.
You borrow money from friends today, from relatives tomorrow, and from old classmates the day after tomorrow.
In the circle you are in, everyone has been borrowed by you.
And you borrow money from different people with different excuses and lies.
Finally, when the agreed day to pay back the money comes, you find excuses to delay it.
This is breaking the promise.
People who have no integrity and always lie are not worth dating.
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Be a man, don't talk "big words"
What is big talk?
I am used to drawing big cakes, but rarely fulfill my promises.
Fully agree to any request of others, but in the end there is no way to realize it.
Giving others hope always disappoints them.
Excessively showing off what you have and putting on an arrogant look.
These all fall into the category of "talking big".
In fact, the more people who like to talk big, the more inferior they are deep in their hearts.
Because they need others to recognize and support him; and he raises his sense of existence in others' hearts by talking big and making promises.
As everyone knows, people who are truly wise and live well know how to "hide clumsiness" and keep a low profile.
Don't talk too much, because the words that are spoken are the water that is poured out.
for example:
When someone asks you for help, every time you "agree" with it.
In this process, you gave the other party hope, and the other party pinned all their expectations on you.
In the end you said, "I'm sorry, I can't help you, you can go find someone else."
How disappointed do you say the other party is? How sad?
Whether you have delayed other people's affairs is another matter, your impression point in the other party's heart has already decreased.
Just reject the other party directly, saying that you can't help, and the other party will not have any dissatisfaction with you.
However, if you promise others but fail to do so, others will dislike you.
It is the principle of being a human being to reserve three points for speaking.
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Be a man, don't talk "gossip"
Don't talk about people's faults.
At any time, do not speak ill of a third party in front of others.
Even if you have a good relationship with the other party, have a good relationship, and you think the other party is trustworthy, that won't work.
"Walls have ears" is not without reason.
This reminds me of a post I saw online.
The boy has been in the company for 3 years. He has a good relationship with the same batch of colleagues who joined the company. They commute together every day and rent a house together.
He thought that the other party was trustworthy, so he told the other party all his heartfelt words.
As a result, he complained about his boss in front of the other party, and was recorded by the other party.
Once there was a conflict between the two, and the other party sent all the recordings to his boss in order to retaliate against him.
In the end, the boys were expelled.
A secret is called a "secret" because it cannot be told to anyone.
When you mention it to others, it can no longer be called a secret.
Always gossiping about others will not only keep people away from you, but also cause unnecessary trouble to you.
Whether it is in the workplace or socially, no one likes the person who "gossips".
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What are some things you can't say when you're with people?
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