'Madame Bovary': 'Stolen' love, in fact, there is only one ending
In the Japanese drama "Day Face", it tells a vulgar, true, and ironic marriage story.
The two heroines in the play did not feel the happiness of marriage after they got married; they lacked recognition, were not understood, and could not feel the love of their husbands, and they gradually went to despair in their ordinary lives.
In this state, they choose to betray their marriage and use "stolen love" to make up for their lack of emotion.
But they found that even if they stole love, they would not be happy.
No matter before marriage, after marriage, or after betrayal of marriage, their relationship is not as happy as imagined.
They struggled, confused, and gradually lost themselves in a marriage where they were belittled, blamed, and not recognized.
This drama actually reflects the plight of women in marriage.
They are trapped in a marriage with no future and no hope; and betrayal is a way for them to find tomorrow.
There is such a set of data on the Internet:
In divorce dispute cases, 73.4% of the cases are plaintiffs who are female.
That is to say, most of the divorce cases are brought forward by women.
"If you don't break out in silence, you will perish in silence."
When women feel hopeless and disappointed in their current marriage, they often choose two paths: betrayal or divorce.
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Marriage and love are separated
In many literary works and film and television works, they try to explore the relationship between marriage, husband and wife, and love.
Mr. Qian Zhongshu wrote in "Fortress Besieged":
"Marriage is like a siege, people outside want to get in, and people inside want to get out."
Writer George Bernard Shaw said:
"If you want to get married, get married, if you want to be single, stay single, anyway, you will regret it in the end."
There are many options in life, but it is never as simple as 1+1=2.
This is where the complexity of marriage lies.
Men and women meet, get acquainted, fall in love, get married, and love changes in the process.
It seems that love and marriage are natural enemies.
Once in marriage, love begins to perish.
In the movie "Married Life", the story of love and marriage is also told.
The husband fell in love with his wife and got married, but the short-lived married life did not last long, and the husband despaired of the marriage.
He suddenly realized: "I don't love my wife anymore."
Thinking of this, he began to escape from such a bland and tormenting marriage.
He fled to a strange city with his lover, but after betraying his marriage, his life with another woman was not as romantic and sweet as he imagined.
On the contrary, he found that living with his lover for a long time has become another form of marriage.
Lack of passion, full of contradictions, all over the place.
In the end, the man returned to the family, and the wife was still waiting at home, and the days were still so ordinary, day after day.
But the man was surprised to find that his love for his wife seemed to be rekindled.
Although the two divorced in the end, they still maintained a lover's relationship with each other.
Irony, truth, absurdity, but that's the truth about marriage.
The contradiction and complexity of human nature lie in:
When you have it, you get bored, tired;
When you lose, you will miss, recall, and not give up.
Marriage is like this, alternating between passion and plainness.
When the two are out of balance, the marriage enters a crisis stage.
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Why do women want to "steal love"?
1. Find the missing passion and love
This reminds me of the famous movie "Bridges of Madison County".
In the play, the heroine is a romantic person at heart, who pursues literature and art and yearns for true love.
Although she was born in a small town and lived in the countryside, she always fantasized about the bigger world outside.
And her husband is dull and unromantic, despite being nice to her and the kids.
But in her heart, she always felt that something was missing.
Probably lack of passion and romance.
Until one day, she met a photographer.
They discussed art, literature, love and hope; under the photographer's description, she saw a bigger world outside and a more exciting life, and finally realized that there are more options in life.
At that moment, she was shaken.
When the photographer finally offered her an invitation: "Will you leave with me?"
The woman was indeed shaken, but in the end her sense of morality and reason surpassed desire and sensibility.
She didn't go with him. Although this stolen love was short-lived, it left a heavy stroke on the woman's long life.
2. Desires and ambitions are magnified, wanting a better life
In the book "Madame Bovary", there is such a story.
The marriage between Emma and Bovary was also a tragedy.
The occurrence of this tragedy was not inevitable.
After attending a high society party, Emma had various thoughts about her husband.
She despises, loathes, and even despises her husband's "hillbilly atmosphere".
In her opinion, compared with the young men of the upper class, there is no sparkle in the husband.
In the end, Emma went farther and farther on the road of pursuing money, power, freedom and desire, and finally fell into the abyss.
Her depravity is related to the seduction and manipulation of several lovers, as well as her inner struggle and desire.
In the face of desire, people will lose their last sanity.
This is why women betray their marriages.
When they can't get more value or benefits from their partners, when she compares, she finds that the people around her are living better than herself.
At that moment, jealousy and desire will make her lose her mind.
"Stolen love" is actually women wanting to obtain better material.
Betrayal of marriage is not limited to these reasons, there are many more.
For example: emotional disharmony, separation between two places, mental abuse, gain but not love, different living habits, full of contradictions and incomprehension, etc.
A snowflake will float in the air with the wind;
But a bigger snowball is enough to crush the whole marriage.
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Stolen love has only one ending
Marriage is a product of economic cooperation as well as a product of moral constraints.
No matter how broken the marriage is, no matter how bad the relationship between two people is.
But these are not enough to support the fact that a person "betrayed" the marriage.
And choosing the path of stealing love, there is only one ending destined: to perish.
In fact, no matter what you choose, you will regret it in the end.
That's just how human nature is.
Marriage is like a "sesame and watermelon" story.
You thought there would be a bigger watermelon waiting for you, so you were not satisfied with any watermelon;
But in the end you find that there are only sesame seeds left for you to pick up.
What is the most difficult thing in marriage?
It is difficult to be compatible at the same time.
Love, sex, understanding, material things, these are difficult to embody in one body at the same time.
Once you understand the true meaning of marriage, you also know how to manage marriage.
Since you regret whatever you choose, you can either jump out or try to change.
Marriage betrayal is just a means for the weak to escape reality.
Today's topic:
How do you feel about marriage?
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