When getting along with the opposite sex, why does the other party not like you and still want to 'be friends' with you?

Have you ever had such an experience?

You like someone very much, and you are also working hard to pursue him; before you confess, the other party pretends not to know that you like him, and accepts what you give with peace of mind.

And when you confessed, he appeared panicked, anxious, and at a loss.

And tell you: "I don't like you, we are not suitable, if you can accept my words, I hope to be friends with you."

He obviously doesn't like you, but the other party proposes to be friends with you.

Normally:

If someone you don't like pursues you and keeps pestering you, after rejecting them, you wouldn't give them a chance to be friends, would you?

So, what kind of psychology is it for a person who refuses your confession to become friends with you?

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What are the reasons for being friends with you?

First: You have value that the other party can use

for example:

A girl is pursued by a boy she doesn't like.

If she rejects the boy decisively and immediately keeps a distance from the boy, then she will lose the opportunity to "continue to gain value from the boy".

If a relationship is confirmed, and the girl doesn't like the boy, it is estimated that if she holds hands and hugs the boy, she will throw away the clothes she is wearing in disgust.

Therefore, the girl chooses a compromise method: "Let's just be friends."

Isn't this a "good person card" in disguise?

"You're fine, but we're not a good fit".

"Please let me take it easy, can't we be friends first?"

The same is true for boys.

What does it mean if the guy you're after doesn't like you but he wants to be your friend?

It means that he wants to possess you, but he is not willing to take responsibility.

Second: a form of polite refusal

The other party doesn't like you, he's sure about it.

However, in the face of your confession, it seems that the time you have known each other is not short.

After much deliberation, he felt that rejecting you directly would cause you some harm.

Therefore, in order to maintain your dignity and save your face, the relationship between the two of you will not be too tense; when he proposed to be friends, he just wanted you to retreat in spite of the difficulties and politely reject you.

Third: Not enough feelings for you

The person you like is indeed more willing to be your friend than your lover.

When getting along with you, he is willing to confide in you, ask you for help, and even show his vulnerable side in front of you.

But these are his "friends of the opposite sex" who regard you as "friends of the opposite sex".

But your confession interrupted his normal rhythm.

He's not sure if his feelings for you are love, but he's not that into you yet.

Rejecting you and becoming friends is also to test whether I can become lovers with you.

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Is it possible to be friends if the confession is rejected?

Share a story with everyone.

There is a male reader who has liked Goddess for 8 years.

He has liked the goddess since he was a student, until the goddess falls in love, gets married, and has a baby. He still likes the goddess very much.

During this period, he confessed to the goddess many times but was rejected.

The two have always maintained a "friend" relationship.

The girl deliberately alienated him, but he didn't care at all, and he was willing to be the licking dog behind the goddess.

How can he bear it?

Watching the goddess holding hands with her boyfriend, hugging and behaving sweetly;

He can even accept eating with the goddess and her boyfriend;

When the goddess got married, he also went to the wedding and gave a red envelope of 6K yuan;

When the goddess gave birth to a baby, he even named the baby.

I don't think most people can do this to this boy's level.

He has the courage and the patience.

Go ahead to dangers.

And what is reality?

The reality is: Most people are not very receptive to being friends with the person they like after being rejected by the person they like.

Even if you are unwilling, but you are repeatedly rejected, you will give up the idea of ​​continuing.

After all, no one can bear: looking at the person you like, starting a new relationship, falling in love, getting married and having children.

Seeing the other person living happily and showing affection over and over again, you feel it is the biggest mockery of you.

Maybe the voice in your subconscious is asking you to bless the one you like.

But in reality, you just can't do it.

It feels like a tree you watched growing up when you were a child was suddenly cut down.

In love, everyone is selfish.

Unable to accept the person you like and be with others;

Unable to accept that my ex is better than myself.

Today's topic:

If you refuse the other party's confession, will you still be friends with the other party?

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