Two people love each other, but can't be together, how should they choose?

"If I never see you again, I wish you good morning, good afternoon and good night." - "The Truman Show"

What regrets do you have in your relationship?

One is: the person you love doesn't love you, no matter how hard you try, there seems to be something missing.

One is: the person who will go with you in the end and marry you is not the one you love.

There is another kind: you and the other party love each other, but in the end they separate; you can't be a husband and wife, and you can't be a lover.

How many people are trapped in this kind of emotional dilemma?

People who love each other can't go on, how to deal with the next relationship?

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"Forget each other in the rivers and lakes"

Fromm wrote in The Art of Loving:

"I need you because I love you; I love you so I need you."

These are two very different kinds of love.

The former loves you because they need you; the latter needs you because they love you.

Although they are all love, the degree of love for each other is different.

Forgetting each other in the rivers and lakes is the "sigh" that two people who love each other have to say after trying various efforts.

It's like a person who tried hard, struggled, and finally failed again; at that moment, the energy in his heart was vented, so he let out a sigh.

It's helplessness, giving up, and "forget it".

Even if you love each other again, what can you do?

Even if you really want to be with each other, so what?

The other person will go to another life, and you will also usher in a new life.

What is higher love?

I love you, but I don't necessarily have you.

We love each other, maybe at this moment we are in different time and space, different environment, around different people, doing different things.

But the two hearts are similar.

They all sincerely hope that the other party will have a good life, and hope that the other party will be safe and happy.

This kind of feeling is the real "forget each other in the rivers and lakes".

If we can't be together, if we don't have a chance to meet again, then I wish you good morning, good afternoon and good night.

This is a blessed love, an unselfish love.

Since you have no way to go on, it is doomed that there is no relationship between you.

If you resign yourself to fate, become lovers, and break through morality and responsibility, then all the beauty and feelings between you will eventually deteriorate.

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If you can't love, just "exit" each other's life

Writer Zhang Xiaoxian said:

"Some people will never be together in this life, but there is a feeling that can be hidden in the heart for a lifetime."

This is a kind of awareness.

The best respect for a qualified ex is to disappear from the other person's life.

Take the initiative to withdraw from each other's lives and not cause too much trouble to each other, this is what we should do.

If you have to force it, after separation, start a new family.

But you still can't let go of each other in your heart, and you still want to cherish the feeling in your memory.

So, you choose to go the way of lovers, and start your private relationship behind your back.

Such a choice would cause the greatest harm to each other.

In the end, it will not only hurt their respective families, but also destroy the last hazy beauty in each other's hearts.

Stay away from each other's life and keep a sufficient distance from each other, this is the best respect.

For example:

You broke up with your ex, and you have been single since the separation, but the other party started a new relationship, and then got married and had children.

At this time, do you still want to disturb the life of the other party?

If you want to bother, it means that you have never really loved the other person.

Those who have truly loved will not hurt each other.

Some feelings are only suitable to be kept silently in the heart.

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In the movie "The Bridge of Madison County", it tells a story of contradictions and conflicts.

About love, betrayal, affairs, trade-offs, morality, choices.

Although Francesca and Robert only had a brief contact for a few days, facing this man made Francesca sink completely.

She couldn't control herself, and couldn't help falling in love with each other.

When facing the man's invitation to take her away with her, Francesca wavered for the first time.

Among moral sense, family, marriage and love, she chose family.

She said that she cannot let her daughter lose her head in the future.

She said: "I missed Robert, it was wrong to stay, but I can't go; this kind of exact love, only once in a lifetime."

In many cases, love and moral sense coexist.

Even more so in marriage.

Your pursuit of love outside of marriage means that you will face the test of your moral sense, loyalty and sense of responsibility.

One step forward is the abyss; one step back is the stable open space.

People's final choice will be attributed to calm and rationality.

Love and freedom are similar to some extent.

What is true freedom?

It's not that you can do whatever you want, but that you don't want to do it and don't do it.

What is true love?

It's not that you love each other and do everything; it's that you love each other and are willing to give up certain things.

Since we can't be together, why bother?

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Love each other, but can't be together, how would you choose?

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