Psychology: This is how others 'look down on you'

Where there are people, there is a chain of contempt;

And where there is a chain of contempt, someone will look down on you.

Being "looked down" by others is like a human desire.

When you earn 5k a month, you think about earning 10,000 a month;

When you drive a 200,000 car, you still envy those who drive a 500,000 luxury car.

The more you have, the more you want to have; people's desire will become stronger as the things they own increase.

In the same way, when you are having a bad time, you feel that everyone around you looks down on you;

When you have a good life, jump out of the circle that looks down on you, and enter a new circle, you will find that there are still people who look down on you.

No matter what circle you are in or what kind of person you become, there will always be someone better than you above you.

Always compare, always feel "dwarf".

Being looked down upon by others affects our emotions.

So, when the other party looks down on you, what are the performances?

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What are the signs of a person looking down on you?

First: Deliberately "targeting you"

This brings me to a story.

The netizen shared his own personal experience.

His family conditions are very good, his parents have been in business for decades, and there are several cars at home.

And not long after he learned to drive, he drove a second-hand car bought for tens of thousands of dollars.

Once, he drove to a certain office building for business and planned to drive in; unexpectedly, the security guard saw his car and refused to let him in.

Immediately afterwards, a car worth hundreds of thousands of dollars drove up behind him. The security guard asked "what are you doing" and put it in.

Netizens froze in place, leaving only chaos.

As a result, the next time he was driving the million-dollar car at home, the same security guard put it in without asking.

When others look down on you, they will deliberately target you.

for example:

In the company, some people collectively target you and isolate you;

In social, you are also deliberately targeted by others.

Being targeted means that he is contemptuous, indifferent and arrogant towards you.

2nd: Ignore everything about you

Have you ever had such an experience?

Sit and eat with everyone, and when others speak, they respond, are taken seriously, and are listened to.

And every time you talk, someone interrupts you, and no one cares what you say or do.

For the same thing, he readily accepts suggestions from others;

And when you make similar suggestions, he just ignores you.

This kind of "ignoring" means that the other party looks down on you.

"People speak lightly."

In his subconscious mind, he thinks that you are inferior to him, so he doesn't care about everything you say.

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Why do people look down on you?

First: inner "arrogance" and "prejudice"

Some people's personalities, life experiences, and family education are just like this.

They are used to being superior, used to bossing around, and used to look down on everyone around them.

In his subconscious mind, he thinks that he should be the center of social interaction, and everyone's attention should be around him.

That in itself is a form of pride and prejudice.

Not only do they look down on you, they look down on everyone else.

People who live better or worse than him are being looked down upon by such people.

Second: the difference between the circle and the environment

This brings me to a consultation.

The guy left me a message saying:

"I graduated from a bachelor's degree. Although it is not a very good school, after returning to my hometown, I looked down on the people around me; they have no culture, do not read much, are not strong, short-sighted and easy to be emotional. I What do you do if you feel that you are becoming more and more out of tune with them?"

I can understand how this guy feels.

It can also be understood that he looks down on the people around him, but this is more antagonism and contradiction between people from two different worlds.

What you have to admit is that in most fields and in most environments, there are "class" and "level" gaps.

Just like the people living in different spaces in the science fiction novel "Folding Beijing".

But for these people, there is no trace of awe in their hearts.

In The Great Gatsby, there is this passage:

"When you want to criticize anyone, just remember that not all people in this world have your superior conditions."

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What should you do when someone looks down on you?

Step 1: Look inside yourself

Before his death, Osamu Dazai wrote:

"The human heart is unpredictable."

If you always feel that people around you look down on you, or you feel like someone looks down on you, try asking yourself:

"What is my life for?"

Is it for yourself, for your family, or to make others "consider you"?

A person's life is meant to be lived for himself and has nothing to do with others.

You have a good life, others want you to have problems;

You're having a bad day, and people laugh behind your back.

However, how many people will come out to help you? Will those people who think highly of you really help you when you are in trouble?

Once you understand this truth, you don't care about these things.

Whether others think highly of you is not important, what is important is that you have to think highly of yourself.

Second: Maintain a sense of boundary with the outside world and live a good life

Any person or thing that makes you feel uncomfortable, you should stay away in time and keep a sufficient distance from them.

This is the "boundary sense" in social interaction.

The other party always belittles you and accuses you, why do you still get along with him?

Obviously falling in love is torture and painful, and you have no future, why do you have to force yourself?

Be sure to let yourself go.

You have to live your own life well, whether it is good or bad, it is not for others to see, but for yourself and your family.

You just need to live at your own pace and strive to be better than the previous stage, and that's enough.

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