Psychology: When the opposite sex gets along, this is why two people are 'attracted to each other'

The relationship between people is actually "mutual attraction".

Whether it is love at first sight or love at first sight, there are attractive and some specific elements that can make two people become lovers from strangers.

Psychologists have put forward different views on love.

It has been said that love is: passion, intimacy and commitment.

Some people also divide love into: passionate love, realistic love, romantic love, and imaginary love.

So, what are the elements that make up the attraction and goodwill between the opposite sex?

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"Principle of Proximity": Proximity

It is the same principle that "a building close to the water gets the moon first".

There is a concept in psychology called the "proximity principle".

It means: the relationship between two people has a lot to do with the distance in space. The closer the distance, the more contacts two people have, and the easier it is to deepen their relationship.

There is a saying that "a distant relative is not as good as a close neighbor", which is the truth.

Sometimes, getting along well with neighbors is far more beneficial than relatives.

When the opposite sex gets along, the primary reason why two people have a good impression is proximity.

The distance is close, there are many opportunities to get along with each other, and the "exposure effect" has a high frequency of meeting.

Under various factors, it is easier for you to develop a good impression with the other party.

Why is it difficult for long-distance couples to succeed? A big factor is distance.

The space is far away, just like "falling in love with a mobile phone"; at this time, once there is another opposite sex chasing you around you, you will be easily tempted.

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The higher the similarity, the more favorability

Psychologically speaking, people subconsciously prefer to be with people who are "highly similar".

Because getting along with people with high similarity and familiarity will make us feel relaxed, comfortable and full of security in our hearts.

for example:

When you are working alone in a foreign land, you suddenly meet a "citizen", and you feel very cordial.

If you meet old classmates in an unfamiliar environment, then you are likely to become very good friends in the future.

Even more so in intimate relationships.

Psychologists have done similar experiments.

Participants were placed in contact with two different people.

the first person:

It is very similar to the experimenter, whether it is personality, three views, living habits, hobbies, etc., there are many similarities.

Moreover, the two of them were very harmonious when chatting, and there were many topics to talk about.

second person:

It is basically the complete opposite of the experimenter, in terms of concept, personality and social interaction.

Getting along with this person made the experimenter feel very depressed, and even wanted to explode at one point.

This experiment illustrates a truth:

The more similar two people are, the easier it is to develop a good impression.

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"sex appeal"

It can also be understood as: the attractiveness of the external image.

Never doubt the advantages of "good-looking" people.

No matter in which environment or in what relationship, people with good looks, good figure, and good temperament have many advantages.

This is true for both boys and girls.

There is a joke on the Internet: Even when a man is 60 years old, he still likes a young girl.

Even when girls are 60 years old, they still like fresh meat.

Subconsciously, people like beautiful things and are more willing to be close to beauty.

The "attraction" between the opposite sex is partly due to being attracted to each other's external image.

The other person's temperament, image, figure, etc. all attract you, and you can't help but want to get close to him and get to know him.

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"Drawbridge effect": the illusion of heartbeat

This reminds me of a reader's message.

she says:

I have been a social fear and shy person since I was a child, afraid to contact strangers, and always "very timid" when dealing with the outside world.

Every time she greets a stranger, she blushes and her heart beats faster.

Especially when she sees handsome boys, it is easier to do so.

As a result, in her long growth experience, she often mistakenly thought that she "sees one and likes one".

Only later did I realize that it was just that she took the feeling of rapid heartbeat as an illusion of love.

There is a "drawbridge effect" in psychology, which means that people often mistakenly transfer their emotional fluctuations to the opposite sex in front of them.

In many movies, the relationship between the male protagonist and the female protagonist often stems from a "passionate and exciting" opponent or a rescue scene, and then the female protagonist develops love for the male protagonist.

This is the mood swings that bring attraction to each other.

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"Cashability" is the current status quo

Some people say: The essence of marriage is a transaction based on the exchange of equal value.

Indeed, the environment is changing, the times are changing, and the concepts of people of different generations have also changed.

For the current marriage and love market environment, having money, good conditions, and a good family background are indeed very advantageous.

Just like in the "blind date corner" in some places, parents replace their children on blind dates, and they often give priority to the other party's "education, work, income, and family background."

When you are valuable, you have many options; even if you don't choose, there will be a steady stream of people approaching you.

When you are worthless, no one will take a second look at you unless your external image can cover up your disadvantages.

Today's topic:

Why do you think there is a good feeling between the opposite sex?

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