When visiting other people's homes, do these small things well to be 'high emotional intelligence'

The relationship between people starts from the details and ends with the details.

The more exchanges, the stronger the relationship; the more troubles, the deeper the relationship.

However, every interaction should have a "sense of proportion".

People with high emotional intelligence will have a sense of proportion no matter who they get along with.

Not too close, not too far away.

When visiting other people's homes, you should master some social etiquette; otherwise, being a guest will only lead to a decline in your relationship.

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Be a guest, please don't treat yourself as a guest

If you are always very restrained when getting along with each other, it means that in your subconscious, your relationship is not that deep yet.

What is the status of the guest?

Sitting upright at home, watching the master busy in the kitchen, he sat on the sofa and played with himself.

Seeing the master cleaning, he didn't understand the master's intention, and he still sat still.

Such a relationship can only show that your relationship is "not enough".

Next time you go to a friend's house as a guest, you should be properly busy and help the host to do what you can.

for example:

When the host goes to the kitchen to cook, you help clean up the table.

Although the other party said: "It's okay, I'll just come, you go to rest."

But what the other party thinks in his heart is actually hoping that you can help, even if you are watching from the side.

In doing so, you relax and the other person relaxes.

Do you know what the owner is most afraid of?

After finally resting for a weekend, a large group of guests came to the house.

The host is busy preparing meals for several hours in the kitchen, and the guests just sit and chat together without any intention of helping;

After the meal is ready, the guests start to eat before the host is busy;

After the meal, the guests patted their buttocks and left, and the host had to clean up the messy house for a long time.

Such "guest etiquette" will only disappoint the host and increase their dissatisfaction with you.

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No matter how good the relationship is, don't "go empty-handed" as a guest

For students, it doesn't matter if they go to a classmate's house as a guest.

But as an adult with an income, it's best not to visit someone's house empty-handed.

Even if you go back to your hometown, you will bring some gifts to your parents, won't you?

Go to a friend's house, especially a relative's house.

It doesn't have to be a valuable item, at least you can't empty your hands. This is your attitude and respect for the owner.

After all, people have been busy entertaining you for a long time, and they also hope that you can express your heart.

As for the gift-giving skills, it is actually very simple.

It is nothing more than: do what you like.

If the other party has children at home, bring some toys and snacks to the children;

If there is an elderly person in the other party's family, prepare some supplements for the elderly;

The other party likes to drink tea, read books, and eat fruits, all of which are suitable for gift-giving rituals.

It doesn't have to be expensive, but it's our way of showing respect.

Wouldn't it be very rude if you went empty-handed every time you went to someone's house and accepted a gift from the host before you left?

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sense of proportion

What kind of sense of proportion?

Don't rummage, don't read too much, don't talk too much.

Don't rummage through the things of the host's house, even if you are curious, don't touch the other party's things easily.

There are also exceptions:

You like reading, and the host’s house happens to have a study room, you can ask the other party: “Can I read a book for a while?”

After being allowed, go to look again.

If you don't say hello, you just look through other people's things, which is very impolite and disrespectful.

Especially when you take your children to someone's house as a guest, you should restrain your children.

Do not look at each other's room and personal belongings.

Even if the other party invites you to watch, just taste it.

Don't talk too much, even if you don't like the decoration style of the other party's house or the furnishings in the other party's house, don't say it.

After all, everyone's aesthetics and preferences are different, and you can't demand others with your own vision and preferences.

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Learn to praise, to get closer to each other

In order to entertain you, the host specially prepared more than ten dishes.

At this time, how should I express my gratitude?

Don't be stingy with your compliments:

"My God, your cooking is really good-looking and delicious. I think you can open a restaurant with your cooking skills."

"The dishes you cook are delicious, even better than what I eat outside."

No one doesn't like to be praised.

Especially for a table of meals prepared by the host who has been busy for a long time, he hopes to get good comments from the guests.

If the other person has children at home, then praise the other person's children.

"Your child is really sensible, and he will definitely be promising in the future"

"Your child's grades must be very good, so many awards"

There is no parent who does not want to hear others praise their children.

A few simple words of praise will invisibly bring the relationship between you closer and lower the other party's defense against you.

People with high emotional intelligence often know how to measure.

Speak as much as you need to speak, and listen more when you don’t have to speak;

Compliment each other at the right time;

Will not stay in other people's homes for too long, understand the sense of proportion.

A relationship that respects each other and maintains a sense of proportion can last longer.

Today's topic:

What do you think should be the etiquette when visiting someone's house?

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