'A high-quality marriage depends on character, a medium-level marriage depends on material goods, and a low-level marriage depends on appearance.'
The knowledge of marriage relationship is great.
A marriage relationship is not just a marriage, and it is not just two people running a family.
Marital relationship, including: interpersonal relationship, husband and wife relationship, parent-child relationship, family relationship.
If any link is not handled properly, it will have a certain impact on the relationship between husband and wife.
After 3 years of marriage, the relationship between husband and wife ushers in a stable period;
After 7 years of marriage, the relationship between husband and wife ushered in a period of conflict;
After 10 years of marriage, the relationship between husband and wife has become a "brother relationship";
After 20 years of marriage, even if there is no love, the relationship between husband and wife has become a "close relative".
In fact, marriage is also divided into "levels":
High marriage, medium marriage, low marriage.
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Superior marriage depends on personality
If you rate the satisfaction of marriage, the full score is 100 points, then the best marriage is above 90 points.
Such marital status is:
Husband and wife are affectionate, happy, and can often feel passion, freshness, and dependence on each other.
Two people are not only husband and wife, but also friends, confidants, and soul mates.
In the process of getting along, they all know how to think differently, can consider problems from the perspective of the other party, and have a high ability of empathy.
In summary, it is:
If you want to have a "superior marriage", you cannot do without two necessary factors.
First: Before getting married, two people have a sufficient emotional foundation.
Without love, marriage is a mess, lacking a backbone and a sense of responsibility.
And with a certain concentration of love, after two people get married, they tend to cherish this hard-won marriage even more.
Love is the foundation of marriage, and a marriage without love is doomed to be incomplete.
Second: They all know how to manage a marriage.
That is the points mentioned above.
When husband and wife get along, feelings are only one factor, and more importantly, how to manage the marriage.
A few key words: acceptance, understanding, tolerance, support, praise.
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Medium marriage depends on material
The score of medium marriage is between 60 points and 80 points.
Such a marriage, despite encountering all kinds of hardships, conflicts and crises, may even have differences in concepts when two people get along.
But in the end, the two were able to deal with the problems in their marriage.
There is a foundation of love, but with the troubles of firewood, rice, oil, salt, soy sauce, vinegar and tea after marriage, love gradually disappears.
But the reason why the marriage has not become a "precarious" state is because such a marriage has a certain material basis.
"Upper decision decided by the economic background".
Writer Yi Shu wrote this sentence:
"I want a lot of love. If I don't have love, I need a lot of money. If I don't have both, it's good to have health."
Some people's attitudes in marriage are:
"I don't care what you do or what you play outside, as long as you can bring enough material value to the family, then I will turn a blind eye."
Marry the other party, what are you planning?
Either figure out the other party's personality, or figure out the other party's spiritual and emotional value, or figure out the other party's material.
Only by satisfying at least one of them can the marriage of two people maintain a stable development.
In fact, most people's marriages are "medium marriages."
I can't get high enough to get low, but I'm generally satisfied with my current marriage.
It may be a regret in their hearts that they failed to meet their soul mate or marry their true love;
But the happiness they can see and feel in front of them makes them feel more at ease.
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Inferior Marriage "Appears to be Compatible with God"
The so-called inferior marriage is "failing".
After the two got married, the marriage became worse and worse, full of endless abuse and contradictions.
The score is lower than 60, and each other does not have any energy and thought to change the current marriage.
"Since you don't want to live on, then just do whatever you want."
"Marrying you is the worst decision I regret ever made"
Common manifestations of such marriages include:
In fact, several levels of marriage can be summed up in 8 words:
Wishful, passable, tolerable, collapse.
Ruyi means wishful thinking;
However, even if the flaws are not concealed, they can be made up for;
Tolerable means to be able to bear the other party;
Collapse means that the marriage is completely broken and irretrievable.
Today's topic:
What level is your marriage at?
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