'Matthew Effect': Love will flow to those who are not short of love, and money will flow to those who are not short of money
There is a famous effect called "Matthew Effect".
It means: the strong get stronger, the weak get weaker, those who have will eventually have more, and those who do not have will only become weaker and weaker.
Whether in economics, psychology, sociology or even education, the Matthew effect is widely used.
The Matthew effect can actually be summed up in one sentence:
"Money will flow to those who are not short of money, and love will flow to those who are not short of love."
Those who have, will only have more;
Whatever he lacks, he will take away what he already has.
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money goes to those who don't need it
for example:
In today's environment, the gap between rich and poor will only grow wider.
Those who are rich and have sufficient capital, they have not only wealth, but also resources.
Standing on the top floor, they have everything that ordinary people can't get after working hard for several lifetimes.
Just like an actor with a daily salary of more than 2 million;
A certain couple became a hot topic among netizens because of a 2 million mattress.
The living expenses of the rich are hundreds of thousands or millions a month casually; spending a lot of money is just a drop in the bucket for them.
But for ordinary people, these are things that they cannot have in a lifetime.
Be conscientious and work hard, and the money you can make in your life is limited.
There is a saying in China: "The poorer you are, the more you will go to hell, the richer you will be, the richer you will be."
Someone else said: "When you are unlucky, you can choke on drinking cold water."
In fact, these are the specific manifestations of the Matthew effect.
Why do rich people get richer?
Because of the resources they have and their status in the industry, they are already in a position that cannot be easily shaken.
Even if they do nothing, they will have a steady stream of income every day.
And those ordinary people who have no money are busy every day to live, and once they stop, they lose their income.
This also means that they can only meet the needs of "survival and life" before considering other things.
When a person can't even meet the most basic needs of life and survival, do you still expect him to have more wealth or resources to leverage higher interests?
impossible.
So, in the end you will find that money will only go to those who are not short of money.
In any field, there is almost a "28 rule".
Most wealth is only in the hands of a few people.
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Love will only flow to those who do not lack love
Why?
The writer De Botton wrote this passage in "The Charm of Boredom":
"One of the ironies of love is that the less you like a person, the more confidently and easily you can attract him. Strong desire makes people lose a kind of indifference that is indispensable in the game of love. If you are attracted, you will An inferiority complex develops because we always attribute our best qualities to those we love."
The more confident and loving people are, the better their mentality will be.
And self-confidence happens to be the fatal attraction in getting along with the opposite sex.
The self-confidence, decisiveness, tenacity, and bravery of the other party will all become factors that attract you.
On the contrary, those who have low self-esteem and lack love, no matter what they do, they look forward and backward, and are cautious.
When you get along with them, you will also feel depressed, exhausted, and your emotions will hit rock bottom.
Why is it difficult for people who lack love to have love?
The first: Worry about gains and losses, bad mentality
For those who lack love, they have been looking for love throughout their lives; once they meet someone they trust and like, they can't wait to spend all their energy on the other person.
But in this kind of consumption, he will be exhausted, and the other party will also be full of pressure.
Second: People who lack love don’t know how to love
It is precisely because they have not felt enough love from their parents since they were young; therefore, he does not know how to love others, nor does he know how to respond to the love of others.
They are like hedgehogs, with spines all over their bodies.
The closer you are to him, the easier it is to be hurt by him.
Therefore, for those who lack love, they are contradictory.
He wants love, longs for love, and is afraid of love; even if love comes to him, he dare not start it easily.
And for those confident people who do not lack love, they have enough confidence to deal with all emotional problems.
"If I love, I will fight for it, regardless of success or failure; if I don't love, no matter how reluctant the other party is, I will not respond."
This is their confidence and self-confidence.
It is precisely because their hearts are firm, their minds are stable, and their emotions are stable; therefore, those who do not lack love will only gain more and more love.
Just like those "good luck" people around you, they all have something in common:
"Treat your feelings casually, but exude your own charm all the time."
To deal with the Matthew Effect, the most important thing is to strengthen your mentality.
As Romain Rolland said:
"There is only one kind of heroism in the world, and that is to still love life after seeing the truth of life."
Today's topic:
What do you think of the "Matthew Effect"?
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