The current 'distorted concept of marriage and love': men want to marry for nothing, women want to get something for nothing
In the movie "The Piano of Steel", after Chen Guilin divorced his wife, he said such a line:
"We're divorced and she's finally living the life she's dreamed of, the life she doesn't work for."
Art originates from life and is higher than life, but in the end it has to return to life.
You will find that the views on marriage and love in different ages are always changing.
Views on marriage and love in the 1950s and 1960s:
"It used to be slow, and it was only enough to love one person in a lifetime."
There was no internet, more communication was sent by post and errands, and the phone calls were pitiful; people at that time paid more attention to feelings and had a strong sense of responsibility.
Views on marriage and love in the 1970s and 1980s:
"Free love" has gradually become popular, because with the development of the economy, people's attitudes towards marriage and love have also undergone more changes.
The degree of tolerance has become higher, and the demand for love has gradually increased; it is their pursuit to find a favorite and suitable person to marry.
Views on marriage and love in the 90s and post-00s:
You can fall in love, but you can't get married; even if you get married, you may not be able to live on.
They do not lack material, but they have more ambitions.
Men want to marry for nothing, women want to get something for nothing.
In the current marriage and love market, marriage has turned to "marketization, commercialization, and profit-oriented".
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women want something for nothing
Did you spot a problem?
Some girls have developed a "vanity" atmosphere.
As the Internet penetration rate is getting higher and higher, short videos are becoming more and more active, and the Internet celebrity economy is getting bigger and bigger.
More and more girls are developing in the direction of "net celebrity".
Put on makeup, turn on the filter and beautify, turn on the thin face, stretch your long legs by the way, sit in front of the screen and start the live broadcast.
One word of "brother" and one word of "family members" alluded to the single men in front of the screen.
You will find that for some young girls whose three views have not been fully formed, their views on marriage and love and their mentality have undergone great changes.
for example:
"Earn 5k yuan a month, still have the nerve to fall in love?"
"Having a car and a house, a stable job, good family conditions, and no loans, only in this way can I meet my criteria for choosing a spouse."
"I'd rather cry in a BMW than laugh on a bicycle."
After all, for them, a boy with a monthly salary of several thousand is only enough to afford their skin care products and clothes for a month, and they can't even reach the threshold of "petty bourgeoisie".
But in fact, what kind of life do they themselves lead?
Moonlight, even overdraft consumption.
The surface is glamorous, but behind the scenes, he is reluctant to even eat a meal.
Most of the income is used to create one's own personality and external image.
I earn thousands of dollars, but look down on boys with a monthly salary of 10,000;
Desiring to live a life of getting something for nothing, hoping to change my life through marriage, but never considering improving my inner self.
Very ironic.
Now think about the words of Yu Minhong and Jin Dong, you will find it very interesting.
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man wants to marry for nothing
It is undeniable that such people also exist in the group of single men.
I don't have enough conditions and abilities, but I blame all the misses on girls who are too materialistic.
There is an interesting saying on the Internet:
"Men are incompetent, so they dislike women's materiality; women are too material, so they dislike men's incompetence."
You see, this is a paradox in itself.
From my point of view, it makes sense to say anything;
But from an outsider's point of view, neither men nor women have grasped the point.
Love and marriage are different.
Falling in love is being with the person you like, even if you pay a lot for the other person, the starting point is because of love, which is your voluntary.
Marriage, on the other hand, is more about the combination of the interests of two people, and they are well-matched.
You are 10 points, you are naturally worthy of any opposite sex;
You have just passed the passing line of 6 points, and you can't expect to find a 10-point person to marry.
And some boys, they have not considered "the value exchange of marriage".
What they think is:
"You don't want a bride price, you don't want a house or a car, and you don't care about my job and income, then you really love me; if you care, then you are material."
And when it is their turn to choose a girl to marry, they will say:
"Hey, your job is average, your income is average, and your conditions are average, so wouldn't it be a disadvantage for me to marry you?"
Double standard.
Always remember one truth about marriage:
who you are, who you will meet;
Who you are is what kind of people you will be with.
Your abilities are average and your conditions are average, even if you marry a noble princess, you can't control it;
You only have the appearance, but the heart is empty, and the three views are not correct. Even if you marry into a wealthy family, it is difficult to manage a good marriage.
This is the nature of marriage.
Marriage always pays attention to "the right family", unless you make up for the "disadvantages" brought to you by your original family through your own efforts.
Professor Li Meijin once said:
"In marriage, if a man is a gentleman, a woman is a lady; if a man is a rascal, a woman is a shrew."
Through this sentence, we can also reflect on another angle.
When a woman is considerate, a man will be positive and confident; if a woman is strong and nagging, a man will be anxious and irritable.
In relationships, men and women interact with each other.
Men determine the height of the family, women determine the width of the family.
What kind of partner do you want, first of all what kind of person you want to be;
Your ability should be worthy of your choice.
Today's topic:
What do you think of young people's views on marriage and love today?
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